THE DARE: Along with restraining from negative comments, buy your spouse something that says, “I was thinking of you today.”
Buying a gift for my wife is very difficult for me. In the first place, buying a gift for anybody is very difficult for me because I am very bad at buying gifts, partly because I don’t care about getting gifts myself. It is even more difficult with Helen, because Helen doesn’t like for me to spend a lot of money on things we don’t need — such as, you know, frivolous gifts for her. So I needed to find something that would not cost much money but would let her know that I had actually tried to think about it. It took me actually quite a long time, but finally it occurred to me that she often asks me to help her find good music for her podcasts. So I went to a Christian bookstore looking for music for her podcasts. Now since I know that she plans to write some podcasts about the stories behind some classic hymns, I wound up picking a couple of CDs of praise songs and hymns, which CDs looked to me like they were by a good group of musicians. So we will see if she likes it. But we will really know if it was a successful gift…if she ever uses any of the music in a podcast.